Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Three kids, three months: an update

This was obviously Kyle's idea, thank the Lord for Daddies!

It has been almost three months since Chloe joined our family, it does me good to type that out.  In my day to day existence it seems like we've had forever to adjust, but writing out the word three, reminds me that we are just at the beginning and it's okay to still be experiencing bumps in the road.

The other night I asked Kyle something that had suddenly occurred to me, "do you think it's as hard going from two to three now as you did at first?"  He agreed that "having three" doesn't seem all that hard, what is hard for us is going from our youngest being three to our youngest being one.  I'll just be honest and say I am selfish with my time and the constantness of parenting a one year old is hard to go back to.

so yes, Jack has on no shorts, but we're potty training, what can you do
I am finding that I actually like the pace that three children keeps me at, the days go by quickly and we're having lots of fun this summer.  We have definitely found our new "normal."  I am hoping summer lasts forever, the removal of pre-school from our schedule has been a blessing to our family.  The break from cooking was good for my soul and now I'm really enjoying cooking again (it comes and goes in waves) and I pretty much go to allrecipes everyday and type in what I've got and cook what they tell me to, they've never let me down.

I am happy.  Does that sound weird, I have less time for myself, am more tired, and feel like I can't give anything the full attention it deserves, but I am happy.  I am enjoying this life so very much, I am enjoying raising these children, I am even enjoying having them all to myself for the whole summer (shh...don't tell anyone but I even think I understand the draw of homeschooling now).  Even though I complained of our very full schedule this spring I must have gotten used to it because we spend very little time at home, if we're not off to to an appointment, we at the splash pad, Target, or the library.  Today at the library, we all got to pet a snake (yes even me, who has a freakish fear of snakes).

check out Jack's "smile"
The potty training is going...well it's going.  He got the pooping down immediately no accidents, no problems, but he pretty much pees in his underwear all day long.  I'm not entirely sure what I'm doing wrong and have on my list of things to do to call a friend of mine to see if she can give me some advice (and you please I'd love advice!)

And it's official my new most annoying comment I receive is, "are they twins?" (referring to Jack and Chloe).  I know, I know people do not mean to annoy me, but let's just say Jack's size is on my mind enough without people thinking that he and his one year old sister are twins.  On the topic of Jack's size we have seen/will see several specialist this summer about it and I'm excited to move forward to see if there is a cause and if there is anything we can be doing to help him grow to his full potential.

Chloe's personality is unraveling more and more each day.  She is such a different little girl than she was when she came home.  The more comfortable she becomes in her home and her family, the more I get to see who my daughter is.  She is still adjusting, she is still grieving and has a way to go to trust me fully and even farther to trust Kyle, but every week I see her make progress and I know that someday she will be where Jack is now and I will have a really hard time remembering what this phase was like.

3 comments:

thewonderfulhappens said...

I'm glad you're enjoying a more laid back summer. We like the easier pace too, but I still don't really get the draw of homeschooling!
Can't give you any feedback on potty training. Isaac took a lot longer to poo on the potty than to pee, and Matthew came home trained (the major advantage of adopting an older child).
Keep me posted on your quest about Jack's small size. We saw our ped last week with Matthew, and it seems he has grown the bare minimum amount a kid can grow WITHOUT the doctors being concerned, so for now they just want to plot his growth every 6 months. The good news is that the doctor said that if we decide to do growth hormones, kids can take them even as late as 14 or 15 and still reach their full growth potential. So I'm not as frantic about it now.

Sue said...

i've been MIA from blogland for while...but i was so happy to read about how good and happy things are going for you at three months with three kids!!
i loved your comment " what is hard for us is going from our youngest being three to our youngest being one"...i totally agree, going back to parenting a one year old was a little tough. but, you get over that pretty quick when you remember all the discovering and learning a one year old still gets to do. :)
so glad you and your family is happy and having fun this summer. keep enjoying it!!

Kyle C said...

You said...
"I am happy. Does that sound weird, I have less time for myself, am more tired, and feel like I can't give anything the full attention it deserves, but I am happy. I am enjoying this life so very much, I am enjoying raising these children, I am even enjoying having them all to myself for the whole summer"
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What better news to hear than the children are all a blessing and the work is a joy and the blur of life is a gift from God. It's wonderful what contentment and peace, which come from God (Phil 4:6-7,12), can do for a family. I love you.