Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Adventures in Potty Training

If talk of poo-poo offends you, then please do not read this post, because it would be more accurately titled, "Adventures in poo-poo training."

We are in week three of potty training and Kylynn is doing a great job..mostly. She gets the peeing just fine and goes a whole week without an accident. We even drove to Decatur and home without any accidents. The problem, and it's a big one, is that she has decided that something about pooping in the potty is scary. And if that wasn't bad enough, it somehow evolved into pooping in general being scary.

So this is a typical day with my two year old. After breakfast, "Mommy my belly is hurting", me "Yes, honey, you need to go poo-poo, let's go sit on the potty", her "no mommy I don't need to go poo-poo". This repeats up to 10 times until she has held it in long enough that the moment passes. Then we usually have a time where she says, "Mommy, I'm going poo-poo now!" So we rush to the potty, when the poop doesn't come out in 5 seconds, she hops up and says I don't need to go! (in a very angry, unhappy voice). We then repeat that around 10 times. Then she takes a nap, if she doesn't poop during her nap the afternoons are the absolute worst! She is a totally different person, crying 90% of the time, everything is drama, everything upsets her. She continues to tell me that her belly hurts, I continue to try to get her to poop on the potty and the cycle continues, until...she poops in her underwear, which is horrible to clean and I think adds to her fear of pooping.

Last week, she held in her poop for two whole days, that's right two whole days of cranky beyond belief two year old. Finally Kyle said, we're getting that poop out of her now! He went inside got her a glass of undiluted apple juice. It worked, of course it worked by her pooping in her underwear three times, but at least she was happy doing it.

Of course this was my prayer request at my Bible study this morning, oh the joys of being a mommy, saying poop in my prayer request! :) But I just am at a complete loss of what to do, she has absolutely stumped me. She is very strong willed, so there is no making her sit on the potty till it comes out, no reasoning with her, no bribing her (I've tried trust me). And I've heard that this is common and can last a very long time...I don't know if I can take it! Pray that I don't lose my mind, and if it doesn't make you uncomfortable to use the word poop in your prayers, pray Kylynn will learn how to poop in the potty!!! :)

2 comments:

texhickmans said...

hahahaha, that's hilarious!

had a similar experience with skyler. he just chose the parking lot at Target. thought i was going to die.

Leslie said...

Jenny,

This worked with my friend. For some reason her little girl was afraid of the poop coming out on the potty and did the exact same thing Kylynn is doing. Her daughter refused to poop anywhere but in a diaper/pull up. Will Kylynn poop in a diaper still?

This is what she did. When she knew she had to poop she put a diaper on the kiddo. When you notice Kylynn pooping, take her to the bathroom and explain to her that we don't go poop in the living room, backyard, etc...we go poop in the bathroom. Don't worry about the diaper...just put her IN the bathroom. Once she gets the hang of walking into the bathroom the next step is up on the potty (with the diaper still on).

Kylynn...we go poo poo on the potty, not by the tub, sink, etc. So sit her on the potty with the diaper still on. Once she can get the hang of sitting on the potty with the diaper still on, and she goes to the potty by herself to sit down and potty, then you can take a pair of scissors and cut a hole in the diaper.

She'll (ideally, right??) feel secure with the diaper on to sit down and poop on the potty and hopefully won't notice the hole in the diaper. So then once she poops on the potty and realizes that it isn't so bad, then hopefully the diaper can be removed all together.

This worked really well for my friend, but it was a process. Like 2-3 weeks of working up to pooping on the potty without a diaper.

Good luck. Mine does great with pottying if I don't put any unders on him. But alas, it is frowned upon by society to take a naked 2yo to HEB. And it is frowned upon by mommy washing out poopy unders!